Comments on: Wondering whether I’m a woman

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 09:03:24 +0000

Thanks, Bob, for your thoughtfulness. I never have thought of myself as a “nerd” until recently (blogging). My high school didn’t have “nerds” or some of the experiences Paul Graham describes (great article!) I also never thought of myself as “that good” at math or science, etc. to be a nerd! It could be though that I am a nerd…especially if you think so!

By: Bob V

Bob V — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 00:29:06 +0000

I was thinking some more about this post the other day. Is it possible the real problem isn’t your womanhood but with the previously discussed issue of your being a nerd?

http://paulgraham.com/nerds.html

It might not be all that important that we correctly categorize the variety of ways we don’t fit in to different situations, but I thought I’d suggest the possibility.

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 04 Oct 2004 09:19:19 +0000

Tina and Katherine and Pop’s Mom: glad to know I’m in good company! I confess I do own a glue gun and use it occasionally. You may be right Katherine that I am a bit crafty, but when I get together with other women, there are other things I would rather do.

Pops: Crafts may be commanded by Oprah but I wouldn’t know. Martha Stewart is a more likely suspect…

Bob: Sorry to disappoint you. Maybe the post I wrote about women and clothing shopping will make it up to you…and if you’d like to read more women blogs in your aggregator I’d be happy to send you a list

By: Katherine

Katherine — Sun, 03 Oct 2004 00:14:35 +0000

I never know what to do on crafty type nights the women at our church organize. Come to think of it, I’m not sure they even invite me anymore The kind of thing where you’re supposed to bring your own hot glue gun (I had to purchase one for some occasion, and asked the hostess just to keep it for me for future such events!). I think I made too much of a fuss when I heard there was sewing involved in one of the crafts – a skill I never learned. You are very skilled in that arena, Julie…you are actually very crafty, you’re just specialized!

Final comment: I got lucky with a husband covering all the important bases, too, Julie, just like you

By: Bob V

Bob V — Sat, 02 Oct 2004 23:06:40 +0000

It’s all relative. I was somewhat proud of the fact that I was broadening my horizons by including a woman’s blog in my aggregator. Little did I know that today I would get told by the author that she wasn’t being a proper, typical girl.

Maybe that’s what drew me here in the first place though. I certainly wouldn’t be here if all Julie talked about was crafts!

By: pops

pops — Fri, 01 Oct 2004 19:15:48 +0000

When Mr. Man was 3 he went to co-op preschool two days a week. The first rule was that a parent had to come along to help.

I was the only father.

Always the topic of crafts came up. Some one would stop and ask, “What crafts does your wife do?”

None.

That just honked them off. They thought I was being belligerent. But I wasn’t. Finally Mom went in my place and she finally confirmed she didn’t do crafts all the other women stopped speaking to her.

What is it with the crafts?

Is that something Oprah commands you to do?

By: Tina

Tina — Fri, 01 Oct 2004 14:18:16 +0000

Hi Julie,
I’ve been reading your blogs through Enoch’s page..
Quite happy to see your particular blog here. I too am terrified to be with a group of women. Even the women’s group at church sometimes just seems not ‘right’ for me although all the gals there are as sweet as they can be.
I love your blogs, and you’re quite a photographer as well… So we don’t like crafts. Big deal. They should move on to photo-blogging anyway.. it’s 2004