Posts on the importance of parenting
In exploring the enneagram, Riso and Hudson have identified ‘lost messages’ that we needed to hear as children but didn’t. The absence of these words may be at the heart of our most basic fear. And unconsciously we may still be seeking to hear these words from others.
Ilona evaluated some of these messages against her own life.
Why can I expose all this? Because I know we all have something…. and if we don’t now, we will. The Human Condition, people.
I know I have recently been seeing some of these “lost messages” and aching from what remains. Some of the statements on Victoria’s list resonated with me as truths I need to know deeper within me. I need to know Truth. I need to feel safe.
Like Ilona, I wonder which messages I am failing to pass onto my children. I need to take time to reflect. To pray for a more-perfect love. And to pray for grace.
From the article
Meanwhile, a small number of emotionally damaged former children, embraced and adored by millions of teenagers like them, rage on in every commercial medium available about the multiple damages of the disappearance of loving, protective, attentive adults — and they reap a fortune for it. If this spectacle alone doesn’t tell us something about the ongoing emotional costs of parent-child separation on today’s outsize scale, it’s hard to see what could.
“We focus so much on our own children,” says Elkind, “It’s time to begin caring about all children.”
The article is an intense one, critiquing the level of worry and control parents exert over play, referring to cell phones as “eternal umbilicus”, containing some truth, but I also think I know what Lisa Williams might think about it (thanks to her comment on my post today!). [Via Rex Hammock]
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1 O'DonnellWeb // Dec 14, 2004 at 5:37 am
A Nation of Wimps
Summary: Parents are going to ludicrous lengths to take the bumps out of life for their children. However, parental hyperconcern…
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