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The benefits of motherhood: where are they?

April 22nd, 2005 · 2 Comments

Mothers, let’s unionize! If only we had benefits…like sick time. Last week I caught a bad cold and now my two year old and I have pink eye. Our insurance coverages are sufficient and I’m not hoping for a pension, retirement account or many other perks that can come with employment and union membership. However, I could use some sick time. Especially with Ted traveling, I wish for moments of rest, a break from bath supervision at night or dinner dish duty, ways my husband usually helps me. During weeks like this one, when I drag myself through the day, I imagine what mothering could be, if it were a paid position. Flipping through a copy of Fast Company and skimming an article on motivation – or rather, demotivation (not on-line yet) – encouraged me to consider what keeps me going. These weeks of sickness and isolation discourage me the most as a mom.

Where are the benefits of motherhood? I am finding them here and there, in bits and pieces as I try to relax, despite the difficulties. When we play guessing games at dinner and hide-and-seek in the house. When I go to wake my daughter from her nap and she smiles up at me, sleepy and happy, looking at me with her eyes, one healthy and one pink, like mine, I know I have something. I might not have sick or vacation time to relieve me from my responsibilities. But I have many benefits. More than I can count.



Since I wrote this piece, I’ve started to feel better. I read Jenny’s post from her Tuesday and wondered why I was complaining! Little gifts from the kids and friends, acts of kindness and care, have helped me too.

I was able to find some time to polish and publish posts…more to come…

Tags: motherhood

2 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Patricia Taylor // Apr 23, 2005 at 7:52 pm

    Julie, because it is late and our day has been very full, I can’t take the time I would like to tell you how much I have enjoyed reading your words on several subjects, not just this one….I have many thoughts to share, but will leave you with just this one: God must love your children very much to have given them to you to mother, teach, nurture, care for and learn from, as you do it so well, even when you are not well yourself.
    Love and hugs,

  • 2 philippe // Apr 24, 2005 at 9:57 am

    i hope you are feeling better now!
    Being a Mom is a tough job.
    Hope you can get some time for yourself beside blogging. Moms can find it hard to take time for themselves because they care so much for their children and spouse.
    That was my philosophical second.
    Anne (14) has started a blog (first for a school project)
    what do you think?
    Take care
    PS: Thanks again for the pictures (recycled on VoB)

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